Why Are You Unable To Persevere In The New Year's Resolutions?
/I will start: diet / going to the gym / save money / cook at home / read more - most of us make some New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately, most of them fail to persist in them. Do you belong to this group? If so, I will tell you what you are doing wrong.
You want too much at once
Adhering to New Year's promises is not easy, especially if you decide to change your life by 180 degrees within a week and from a couch lion, spending time mainly watching Netflix and snacking on chips, you want to transform into a passionate gym and extreme gear, being up to date with all the literary premieres and, of course, on a healthy diet. Sounds cool? Not necessarily. The goal may be ambitious, but consistency in its implementation seems a miracle. Probably on January 2, you will actually get up at 5 am to prepare healthy meals for the whole day and run before work, and straight after you finish all your office work, you will go to the gym (if it’s opened!), where you will spend 2 hours. You will stop on your way home to buy the ingredients next day’s meal, and spend the evening reading a new book. Only where it's time for a family or for yourself? After two weeks of such a tremendous schedule, you will have enough, so the chances that you will gradually start skipping the gym, and instead of a full-fledged dinner taken from home, you eat a candy bar during the break is really great.
Solution? Set fewer goals and implement changes gradually and with smaller steps. Do not try to force a huge change in every area of your life.
You don't want to change anything at all
Decide to lose weight not because you really want it, but because it will make you feel better? Or maybe the goal you set for yourself is really not your expectation, but your wife's, husband's, mother-in-law's, or parents'? If so, the chances that you will persevere in change are minimal, and you will treat the decision not as a chance for a positive change but as a compulsion. The more often you will try to avoid the duties associated with it.
Solution? Motivation is the basis. Think about what you want and what is important to you. Choose a provision that you really care about for me.
You get discouraged quickly
A miraculous diet is a bad diet. Everyone who lost 5 kg in 2 weeks on express fasting, will automatically then gained 7 kg immediately after. Whether it's diet, language learning, or sports, it's hard to get impressive results in a concise time. Unfortunately, the fact that you sometimes have to wait several weeks for satisfactory results can be demotivating, especially since the first weeks of implementing the provisions are difficult. Longing for sweets or cold and dark evenings that are not conducive to running often causes thoughts to let go. The easier it is to succumb, the less spectacular changes we notice.
Solution? Appreciate small things instead of immediately expecting a great effect; divide your investigation into an ideal situation in stages.
You don't want to, but you have to
Maybe your list of New Year's resolutions is not long, but you still treat them as your annoying duty. It is hard to find why you really want to persevere in them and the benefits you will achieve.
Solution? Instead of "having to" start "wanting," and that's how you think and talk about what you want to change or achieve. Treat it not as a compulsion but as a privilege and a chance for something new and better.
You give up too soon
Failure happens to the best people in the moments of doubt. However, it would be best not to give up immediately after the first setback, after all, Rome was not built in a day.
Solution? Don't give up right away. Allow yourself to make mistakes and to have weaknesses. Even if you doubt yourself, wait a moment, rest, and return to the topic with new energy in a few days.
What are your resolutions for this year?